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I can’t help but wonder what
was going on in the minds of those parents who
used their children to gain national attention
flying that home-made balloon. Maybe, at
first, our interests were piqued, but then it
became clear that those parents were dangerous
and deceptive. What do we make of such flagrant
violations of human decency – and where do
they lead us in our own lives?
Of course, there have always been pranks. Think Orson Wells and the War of the Worlds. Now, that was quite a prank! I can think of lots of other pranks closer to home that simply involved my older brother and which I can’t tell you about; or, that I did as part of any number of school athletic teams. Let it be known, I love pranks.
But there are lines to be drawn in what we do. I sometimes worry that we are becoming immune to things like the Balloon Boy episode. We look at them, we know they’re wrong, we shrug our shoulders, and we move on. It’s true that in some ways there’s nothing we can do about them. At times, that‘ll have to be okay.
And yet, I think that as we look away from such events, there is a part of us that becomes numb to them. We inoculate ourselves against them; we tell ourselves that they can’t – no, they won’t! – touch us, won’t disturb us, and we keep moving along. But in the process of inoculation, what becomes of us?
I know what I’m writing here has been written many times before. I suspect some people might say, “Come on, let it go!” But that’s not the threshold I’m using; being present is.
You see, I believe most people are innately good. I’ve come to believe we’re born that way. Based on my experience, I believe almost all people want to do the right thing. The problem is that the conditions surrounding us often tempt us, lead us astray, and get us entangled with the wrong folks or situations.Sometimes we feel that we can’t extricate ourselves – we are unable to see a path out, sometimes succumbing when we want to prevail.
Sometimes we’re just plain weak.
Perhaps it is because of the expanding news media, YouTube, FaceBook and other media outlets and social media that we have more access these days to events like the Balloon Boy. Maybe it is because of this, we feel inundated, even unable to control many things. I’ve done any number of studies on such trends and I hear such confessions from people in many of our on-the-ground initiatives. I’m sympathetic to this point of view.
But I wonder if the effect of this inundation, and inoculation, is that we let ourselves turn away from each other, allowing others, even ourselves, to lower expectations of what we do and who we are. I know none of us can control events like the Balloon Boy; so be it. Honestly, I’m more concerned about what we do. Are we willing to hang on and stay engaged with one another?
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Re: What do you make of �Balloon Boy?�Oct 22, 2009 | Andrea J. Applegate1. The only people to blame for the Balloon Boy fiasco are Richard Heene, who should seek help immediately for mental illness, and his wife, who has her own issues with co-dependent behavior. It's easy to point the finger at the media, the tabloids, reality TV, twitter, fast food, Iran, and the broken healthcare system. But, the problem here is that these two people continue to make very poor choices.
2. THEY ARE BAD PARENTS.
3. Don't blame me or call me stupid because I fell for the prank. I readily admit: I was riveted to the live video. I was as confused and distraught as the journalists "reporting" live on-air. I was sick in my stomach speculating at all the horrible "what ifs" about the poor little boy. Now that I know the truth, I'm proud that I was rivited, that I was distraught, and that I was sick about it, because that just shows that I am a caring and compassionate human being. I would be concerned if, upon hearing the situation, that I shrugged my shoulders and turned away.
4. Yes, shame on people for making fun of the situation (and the Balloon Boy) during and after. But, it's called Gallows Humor. It's both common and historic.
5. Oh, and I'm pissed as hell at the Heenes for putting me (and everyone else) through this agony. So, let's do the right thing and hold the Heenes responsible. -
Re: What do you make of �Balloon Boy?�Oct 21, 2009 | patsyThanks. I agree with you and I do think we are inundated to the point of numb. It is up to all of us individually not to get numb - and also to help each other not to get numb. Stay in the moment - dare to have integrity in this over-amped abundance of information. -
Re: What do you make of â??Balloon Boy?â??Oct 21, 2009 | AngelaTelevision as mentioned is not to blame its the people that watch it!! I was one of them so I feel qualified to share. I was increasing the ratings on 'SMUT' TV that glamourized social ills, mental health and destructive living. In hind sight I had to think about what was going on in my own life~hemmm? Yep it was SMUTTY!! About 4 years ago I eliminated cable in my home. I realized the news, sitcoms, and even Disney was not producing what I wanted to see or expose my children (then 11 yrs old & 9 yrs old) to!! We all HAD TV's in our rooms and we came out for food or a quick dash to the potty. The TV in the living room was the center of our lives and visitors point of attention. I saw my daughter walking around the house with the remote control to the living room TV, and almost cried when I told her to put it down. It was her life line and missing the latest program was not cool for her socialization at school. My living room is filled with books, a badly tuned piano, desk top computer & board games...but no longer a TV. My children choose one TV program once a week (usually on Mondays) and go to my parents to watch it. My parents love having them there! Last year around election time my children spent the evening at my parents watching the Presidential election outcomes. I came to my parents to pick them up because it was past 10:00pm and I saw the most amazing thing. I stepped into my parents bedroom to witness my dad sitting in a chair, my mother in the bed crowded with 4 children discussing the Presidential candidates and electorial process. I almost cried thinking about the multigenerational impact this night could have. So I pushed the smallest kid off the bed and joined in the family time.
I shared that to say WE can make a difference, and you may not be popular for choosing not to keep up with the TV drama, social networks or even community drama. WE have to make choices that are healthy for our mind, body and spirit. I get headaches when there is nonsense on TV, and people responding to life in ways that break my heart. I love my children, heck I love THE children ( I am a foster parent) and pray that WE as a world recognize the treasures we have been given...and protect them from the people, situations, and spirits that derail their destinies. Do I miss cable and communing around the 'boob tube'? Sometimes~but not enough to go back to the way it used to be.Our community has created a culture that makes people waaayyyyy more important than they really are. I would encourage you as I encourgae myself to find the courage to love people and exhibit genuine care for their well being regardless of who they are and more importantly who they are not (in the eyes of society). I feel like one of the hardest things in the world to do is to help people. Mother Teresa was asked in an inerview how to create world peace. She asnwered very simply by saying "Love your family". So I am starting there. -
Re: What do you make of �Balloon Boy?�Oct 21, 2009 | MichaelTo me and my wife, this is another sad chapter in the American relationship with "Reality TV". People, mostly with very little to say or few credentials, are allowed to "perform" on TV and become famour overnight. Narcissism? Maybe. Enabled by the TV industry's desire to have cheap programming. These sad people seem to have decided that the TV shows don't have a lock on the market and created their own "Reality show". YouTube is a wonderful enabler of music, lost footage and news into our lives, but it too enables the same instant gratification - the same narcissism...
So, let's all just stop - STOP - S T O P - watching that garbage and demand "real" writers write "real" shows if we insist on watching TV.
This "event" was the product of that same thinking and we have ourselves to blame for watching. -
Re: What do you make of â��Balloon Boy?â��Oct 21, 2009 | Brian JohnsonThe Balloon Boy saga that is still unfolding is yet another story in America’s relationship with fanaticism, the media, and reality television. The story broke last Thursday that a six year old boy was trapped in a balloon flying over the Colorado skies. After I received this breaking news alert from CNN I cut on the television to watch the drama play out.
Watching CNN the news anchors speculated and pondered, “How was the boy able to start the machine?”, “If the boy has fallen out of the balloon, where is he?”, “Is the boy scared?”, “Will the boy be able to breathe inside?” and many other questions. This was hysterical journalism at its finest and what happens when a story first breaks. After about an hour of watching, the balloon landed but no six year old boy. When the balloon landed and it was discovered that there was no boy, I honestly feared the worst. I feared that maybe he fell out and landed in a forest somewhere scared and lonely. Not only was this coverage on CNN but on MSNBC and Fox News cable shows but ABC, NBC, and CBS as well. I also followed this saga via Twitter and instantly found out that the boy’s name was Falcon Heene and that his family had appeared on the television show Wife Swap and Ghosthunters. Following this story on Twitter there were jokes at the expense of a six year old being trapped in a balloon. I had to wonder reading these jokes that what if this was your six year old son, brother, nephew, cousin, etc. How would you feel? Imagine the parents of the boy at work or any parent for that matter and not knowing about this at all, how do you think they would feel?
After almost five hours after the ordeal began Falcon was found at home. Now this is where the story takes a turn. The boy was found at home in the attic in fear of getting in trouble. We were all kids once and have done something bad and ran to hide for fear of getting in trouble, but what if the boy never came out of hiding after a few days? Would the nation have started to hold a vigil for the boy? Would people have sent their well wishes and prayers for his safe return home? With the boy safely home the media frenzy began and the family made two appearances on the Today show and Good Morning America. During two of these appearances six year old Falcon vomited on the morning shows. The host and crew of one of the shows had to urge the family to check on the boy and see if he was alright. If you knew your child was ill before sitting in front of a camera, why put him on the air not once but twice? And why react slowly to your sick child in the first place?
With the story now being called a hoax and the Heene parents being sought after by the police you have to wonder, was this all worth it? Is reality television and the amount of attention that comes with it really worth it at the risk of your family’s lives especially the children. During one of the evening shows a small clip was played from the family’s time on Wife Swap, where one of the children was cursing. Is this really real? Is this what families are made of today in America? Surely not all but there are some out there who let their kids say and do anything for attention. As we learn more about this family a few red flags are raised for me: taking the kids out of school to chase a storm, making the children sleep in their clothes in case a storm comes during the middle of the night, and of course having your child answer a question in regards to this incident that, “this was for the show” on Larry King Live. The reality of this situation is that reality television has gone to the point of no return, what will be thought of next? People will stoop to any level to have that five minutes of fame and be known for whatever reason even if it involves a child.
Not to get too far off track but this saga is playing out simultaneously as the Gosselin family of Jon and Kate plus 8 fame is playing out. The parents Jon and Kate are now separated and their back and forth drama is tabloid news. The look into their lives on how they cope with raising eight children was a fun thing to watch in the beginning but now it is not. How are the children coping now? Do the children even want to be on television anymore? How does it make the children feel to see their mom and dad go on television every other day talk negatively about each other and defend themselves against lies and accusations? Reality television sometimes ditches or exploits a person’s feelings for ratings. With Balloon Boy the whole world sat and watched at the possibility of a six year old being trapped in a balloon flying high in the sky, all of us were afraid for him and the family. Some people were probably filled with dread, tears, and some even started to pray for the boy. We were manipulated by real honest emotion.
Stories like this lead to more questions rather than answers. Should the Department of Social Services look at this Heene family, the Gosselin family and any other reality television family and start to investigate? When do television networks say enough is enough to the exploitation of families, period? Will the state of Colorado charge the family for having to shut down/re-route airplanes at the Denver Airport? Will the military charge them as well for having to use two Blackhawk helicopters to chase the balloon which they believed their son was in at the time? What do the teachers and school staff who deal with them on a daily basis think of the Heene children?
Is this the state of our nation now? What happened to the average American family working together to fulfill the American dream? Why not get a job, pay your taxes and raise your family with morals and values that can be passed down? Instant gratification and recognition rules the lives of some in this generation and that is not good. Television is a great medium when used correctly but we need to unplug ourselves from the world of entertainment and plug into our families, friends, churches, community centers, jobs, etc.